they like it. no, they love it. seems to be important :) just bought one these days (wooden with rubber band to shoot) in gamla stan (krabat, a nice children shop) ... don't know how much he has ...
As a young mother I struggled with the gun thing, hating what they represented. But even though they were "banned" from our household, the boys resorted to guns made from legos, cardboard rifles, sticks and of course their fingers. Try as I might, guns persisted! Now as an old mother I can say that the boys have grown into lovely, strong, young men who cook and bake with the best of them and who freely throw the love word around their (old) mom.
Our daughter was never interested in guns as a small child (not now either), and I don't remember that we even talked about how we should deal with the facts that there are toy guns out there when having her. It was different with our son. When he was just a couple of years, one could sense an interest in "shooting" with things. I was not an oppnent freak about it, but I didin't wanted the kids to play with pistol-like toys at all from the begining. My husband didin't want it either of course but he himself had been playing with toy guns as a child, and just like you describe Gina - he grown into a great, wise and good person anyway. I don't know how it happend really but our son has several kind of toy guns today. Can't say that I like it but I hope that we provide him with love, insights and good values enough to preserve him kindhearted, and empathetic, even as a grown up.
With all of life's ugliness I think that a child's world of pretend and make believe is paramount. And if, within each day we, as parents, can show some evidence of kindness, a willing ear, compassion and yes, even discipline, we need not fear the outcome of adolescence. :)
Jag tänker att det är som med Barbie och liknande dockor. Vi vuxna lägger in värderingar och idéer i själva objekten utan att bara se till barnens lek och vad den kan stå för (för det mesta en hel massa roliga och bra saker!). Sen kan man ju ändå fortsätta att slå knut på sig själv i försöken att förstå varför vapen främst tycks fascinera pojkar - för jag vågar påstå att det är så ;)
Och i det här fallet kan vi nog i alla fall alla se estetiken i samlingen :)
Elisabeth, ja så är det nog, att vi vuxna har föreställningar om saker och ting i alla möjliga kontexter och situationer som påverkar barnen, utan att vi själva tänker på det, eller kanske inte ens kan styra över. Vad vapen i grunden står för är mycket negativt. Leken däremot, är nödvändig och viktig. Jag funderar, men fördjupar mig inte. Kanske är jag svag, oförståndig och lat, men så är läget.
can't know how my son will be later but right now he has a good heart although playing with guns ... I believe if you show your children love and understanding it won't be bad for them to play what they like. from time to time we talk about those things and he differs between play and real life, more and more ...
This looks almost IDENTICAL to my son's gun collection. How it made me laugh...and feel relief that I am not the only mum to feel dismayed at the obsession. Even if from a few thousand miles away.
I love the ceramic one! my nephew makes his artillery out of paper quite complex machine guns and hand guns all from newspaper and any other paper he finds in the recycling. Dont you just love boys?
I really love the ceramic gun and also the wooden ones too. Boys will be boys and that's OK with me too (as long as you don't point it at anyone's face)... From another boy Mum. Pruxxx
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wow!
i like the small branch gun.
i remember fighting wars with these in the forest, when i was in kindergarten...
they like it. no, they love it. seems to be important :) just bought one these days (wooden with rubber band to shoot) in gamla stan (krabat, a nice children shop) ... don't know how much he has ...
As a young mother I struggled with the gun thing, hating what they represented. But even though they
were "banned" from our household, the boys resorted to guns made from legos, cardboard rifles, sticks and of course their fingers. Try as I might, guns persisted!
Now as an old mother I can say that the boys have grown into lovely, strong, young men who cook and bake with the best of them and who freely throw the love word around their (old) mom.
Ah, my sister's boys do love their guns too.
That sounds comforting Gina.
Our daughter was never interested in guns as a small child (not now either), and I don't remember that we even talked about how we should deal with the facts that there are toy guns out there when having her. It was different with our son. When he was just a couple of years, one could sense an interest in "shooting" with things. I was not an oppnent freak about it, but I didin't wanted the kids to play with pistol-like toys at all from the begining. My husband didin't want it either of course but he himself had been playing with toy guns as a child, and just like you describe Gina - he grown into a great, wise and good person anyway. I don't know how it happend really but our son has several kind of toy guns today. Can't say that I like it but I hope that we provide him with love, insights and good values enough to preserve him kindhearted, and empathetic, even as a grown up.
With all of life's ugliness I think that a child's world of pretend and make believe is paramount. And if, within each day we, as parents, can show some evidence of kindness, a willing ear, compassion and yes, even discipline, we need not fear the outcome of adolescence. :)
alltså, sällan har ett vapenintresse fascinerat mej så.
Jag tänker att det är som med Barbie och liknande dockor. Vi vuxna lägger in värderingar och idéer i själva objekten utan att bara se till barnens lek och vad den kan stå för (för det mesta en hel massa roliga och bra saker!). Sen kan man ju ändå fortsätta att slå knut på sig själv i försöken att förstå varför vapen främst tycks fascinera pojkar - för jag vågar påstå att det är så ;)
Och i det här fallet kan vi nog i alla fall alla se estetiken i samlingen :)
Creative!
I love the little one down on the left. It's little and cute.
Elisabeth, ja så är det nog, att vi vuxna har föreställningar om saker och ting i alla möjliga kontexter och situationer som påverkar barnen, utan att vi själva tänker på det, eller kanske inte ens kan styra över. Vad vapen i grunden står för är mycket negativt. Leken däremot, är nödvändig och viktig.
Jag funderar, men fördjupar mig inte. Kanske är jag svag, oförståndig och lat, men så är läget.
Estetiken ja, den förför ;)
i love them!! the branch gun is the best!!!
I love this blog!!
can't know how my son will be later but right now he has a good heart although playing with guns ... I believe if you show your children love and understanding it won't be bad for them to play what they like. from time to time we talk about those things and he differs between play and real life, more and more ...
i am just coming to terms with this at home too. can't stop the stick guns, one always comes home after a walk in the woods.
This looks almost IDENTICAL to my son's gun collection. How it made me laugh...and feel relief that I am not the only mum to feel dismayed at the obsession. Even if from a few thousand miles away.
oh I love these guns. :) looks like lots of imagination and fun. and the fort, I just love the fort.
I love the ceramic one! my nephew makes his artillery out of paper quite complex machine guns and hand guns all from newspaper and any other paper he finds in the recycling. Dont you just love boys?
I really love the ceramic gun and also the wooden ones too. Boys will be boys and that's OK with me too (as long as you don't point it at anyone's face)... From another boy Mum. Pruxxx
Boys - love them! Came from a family of 2 sisters so having a boy really opened a new world to me. I am still fascinated!
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